In the dance of dialogue, insisting on being the lead can stumble the rhythm. Obsession with correctness—always wanting to be the star in the spotlight—can sow the seeds of discord. Minor disagreements, benign in their inception, can mushroom into major fallouts. The truth is, winning the battle of so-called ‘rightness’ isn’t the ultimate trophy—it’s often just a hollow medal that brings shallow satisfaction.

Think of your certainty as a canvas—just because it’s painted in your colors doesn’t necessarily make it an accurate portrait of reality. The perspective of others can add dimensions, introduce new hues—rendering a more holistic picture.

Sometimes, we find ourselves standing on the summit of correctness. The victory can feel intoxicating, tempting us to trumpet our triumph to the world. Yet, the sweetest melodies are often played pianissimo, softly. Wisdom and grace don’t need to be blasted from loudspeakers—they echo in the quiet understanding, resonate in thoughtful consideration.

Imagine your discussions as a soft-spoken symphony, each conversation a unique harmony. When we engage with others about matters dear to our hearts, we must play our notes with kindness, consideration. If we’re off-key, insisting on our discordant tune, we risk the symphony turning into a cacophony, our voice drowned out in the discord. And when the music fades, we find ourselves standing alone in a silent hall, the blame echoing in our own echo chamber.

So, play your part in the grand orchestra of conversation. Let your voice blend with others, appreciate the music of multiple perspectives. In the end, the most beautiful symphonies are those where every instrument is heard, respected, and valued.

Stephen Boudreau serves as VP of Brand and Community at Virtuous Software. For over two decades, he has helped nonprofits leverage the digital space to grow their impact. To that end, Stephen co-founded RaiseDonors, a platform that provides nonprofits with technology and experiences that remove barriers to successful online fundraising. He is an avid (but aging) soccer player, audiobook enthusiast, and the heavily-disputed UNO champion of his household.

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